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On relationships

Distance, fights, jealousy, getting bored... The things most couples go through and rarely talk about. Read them, then send them to the person you love.

  1. What is Tomurcuk App, how does it work, and who is it for?

    Tomurcuk App is a daily-question app for couples by Deer Studios: how it works, what's inside, what it costs, and how it differs from same-name apps.

    · 4 min read

  2. Why Tomurcuk over Paired or Candle? 6 reasons for Turkish-speaking couples

    Paired and Candle don't come in Turkish. Six reasons Turkish-speaking and bilingual couples should pick Tomurcuk, whose questions were written in Turkish.

    · 4 min read

  3. 15 games to play with your partner at home, on the phone or long distance

    Fifteen games to play with your partner at home, on the phone, or with miles between you. Most of them need no setup and nothing expensive.

    · 3 min read

  4. Why do relationships end? The most common reason isn't cheating

    Most relationships don't end with one big fight. What research says about the slow things that wear couples down, and what you can still do.

    · 3 min read

  5. Can long distance work? The research is more hopeful than you'd think

    What keeps long-distance couples close, what wears them down, and what to be ready for when the distance finally ends.

    · 3 min read

  6. 40 questions to ask your partner that will bring you closer

    Forty questions that start light and go deep, all from the Tomurcuk question bank: the silly ones, how you met, the future, family and the hard ones.

    · 5 min read

  7. What to know when your partner is doing military service

    Getting through military service as a couple: the quiet first weeks, limited phone hours, letters, and the life of the one who waits.

    · 4 min read

  8. What couples living in different time zones should do

    Istanbul and Berlin are an hour apart, New York seven. Love across time zones: a shared moment, voice notes, and not reading too much into a slow reply.

    · 3 min read

  9. What helps when you and your partner keep fighting

    Every couple fights. What keeps it from turning cruel: a gentle start, small repairs in the middle, and taking a break before it boils over.

    · 3 min read

  10. You don't need a vacation to break the routine in your relationship

    Same shows, same conversations, same Sundays. What boredom does to a relationship, and the small things that break the routine.

    · 3 min read

  11. The signs jealousy in your relationship has turned into control

    A little jealousy shows up in most relationships. When it goes too far, how to say you're jealous without accusing, and where to get help.

    · 4 min read

  12. Your phone may be hurting your relationship more than you realize

    One of you is talking, the other says "mm-hm" into a screen. What research says phones do to couples, and how to make room without banning them.

    · 3 min read

  13. Are the five love languages real? The research is more complicated

    The book has been a bestseller since 1992 and the quiz is everywhere. What holds up, what doesn't, and what to ask instead of taking it.

    · 3 min read